Porn, Incels, and The Silent Loneliness Epidemic No One Talks About
Have you ever wondered why it’s easier to watch porn for hours than to hold a real conversation with someone you’re attracted to? No one talks about this, but they should: Porn is killing your confidence.
Ashutosh Banerjee | IIT-B | Winner of Several National-Level Essay Competitions
Years of clicking “play” for instant pleasure have trained your brain to seek reward without effort, without courage, without rejection, without conversation.
Now, when you’re face to face with a real human, your brain freezes. Eye contact feels scary. Words don’t come out. Your mind is screaming:
“What if they think I’m weird? What if I say something wrong? What if they reject me?”
And it’s not just about porn.
It’s about loneliness that runs deeper than anyone admits.
You could be sitting with friends, surrounded by laughter, and still feel invisible.
You could be texting 10 people daily but deep down know none of them really understand you.
You could post stories hoping someone replies – not for likes, but just to feel like you exist in someone’s mind.
But here’s the darkest part:
School didn’t teach you how to talk to people.
Parents didn’t teach you how to process rejection, heartbreak, or loneliness.
Society only taught you to chase marks, careers, status – never connection.
Now you’re an adult who can solve complex equations but can’t make simple conversations.
You’re a girl forced to be “strong and independent” all the time, bottling up your breakdowns because you’re “the mature one.”
You’re a guy who feels invisible to girls, silently watching their stories, liking their posts, saving their photos – but never gathering the courage to say “Hi.”
This is the real loneliness epidemic.
No one talks about how it destroys your self-worth daily.
How it makes you settle for toxic relationships just to feel seen.
How it makes you believe your feelings are a burden.
How it kills your dreams before life even gets the chance to.
And the cruel truth?
No one is coming to save you.
Not your friends who are busy fighting their own silent battles.
Not your parents who think “it’s just overthinking.”
Not society that only values your productivity, never your pain.
But listen to me carefully:
Your loneliness is not your fault. Porn is not your fault. Society’s neglect is not your fault.
But staying stuck forever? That’s on you now.
If you want to change it, start with what feels uncomfortable:
Talk to people even if your voice shakes.
Smile at strangers. Compliment them. Ask questions. Listen.
Stop expecting instant intimacy. Confidence is built like a muscle – repetition, failure, correction, and growth.
If you’re a guy reading this, know this:
Porn will never fix your loneliness. It only numbs it temporarily while your reality slips further away.
If you’re a girl reading this, know this:
You don’t always have to be strong. Your vulnerability is what connects you to others, not your forced perfection.
I don’t know your exact story. But I know this:
You’re not here to live like a ghost.
You’re not here to stay silent while your life passes by.
You’re not here to die with your heart full of words no one ever heard.
Please don’t let loneliness become your identity.
Speak up. Reach out. Even if it terrifies you.
Because you deserve to be seen. You deserve to be heard. You deserve to be loved for who you truly are.
And if no one ever told you that before, let this blog be the first time you hear it.
